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Healthy Relationships- Tips To See If You Have Healthy Relationships

Everyone wants to have healthy relationships. A good, loving strong relationship is something most of us would love to have. Whether it is a friendship, a romantic relationship or even a work place relationship, there are good relationships and there are not so good relationships.
If you want to know what makes up healthy relationships I can provide you with some guidelines but at the end of the day, you know what is good and what isn't. You may not always want to acknowledge that if you are in a relationship that you don't really want to leave but in your heart you know it is not healthy, but you still know.

Here are some things that are indicators of a good and strong relationship:

1. Does each person in the relationship take responsibility for their words and actions? If one of you acts badly or lashes out when things go wrong (which shouldn't happen very often) do you at least own up to your own inappropriate behavior and sincerely apologize or do you get petulant and even more angry?

2. Are each of you comfortable and capable of being on your own? It's one thing to love another person and to want to be with them, but it's quite another to feel like you can't do anything on your own or be on your own.

3. You are both able to talk freely and openly about your feelings, both good and bad feelings without having to worry about your partner getting angry and defensive. If you are not in a relationship where you can freely express how you feel without worry of some sort of retribution, even if it is just the silent treatment, than it isn't a totally healthy relationship.

4. You should both be comfortable with saying no to anything that you don't like or want to do. If you feel guilty about standing your ground or if your partner "punishes" you for standing your ground, that is not a sign of a good solid relationship.

5. There should never be any type of abuse. Abuse can come in many forms. If your partner gets a kick out of cutting you down and embarrassing you in front of others, that is abuse (even if they say they are "just kidding" or you are "too sensitive"). That is abuse and there is no excuse for it.

To put it in a nutshell, if you want to have strong, loving respectful relationships, you must be willing to "demand" it. I don't mean by screaming and yelling I mean by simply refusing to settle for anything less. If you are with someone who doesn't feel the same way, you leave. If you don't treat yourself badly you probably won't attract anyone who will treat you badly either and at least if you do, you will stand up and tell them "no".

So, go out and grab your own healthy relationships, or if you are already in a relationship, take stock and make sure it is a good relationship. Even if it needs work, you and your partner can work together to make things better, it's up to you.

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Dr.Monica Watts-Hopkins
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Passion, Bond and Trust

It is not uncommon, during a ladies night out or shopping to hear my peers complain about wanting to be closer to their spouse, lover or partner and want more love, passion, bond and trust. Many acknowledge that they can all improve communicating and connecting with their partner, and just do not know where or how to start? Most of us feel that way at some time in our relationships and lives.
Communication Most couples have resigned themselves to ambivalent, bland relationships full of unspoken secrets and unmet needs, but it doesn't have to be that way! One of the important areas and interventions in Worthington's (2005) book that I learned in the chapter four was concerning communication in which couples present to counseling experiencing lack of love, present communication problems. When communication between partners fades, so does love, hope, and faith in the marriage (Worthington, 2005, p. 64). The role of the counselor is to facilitate improved communication between partners in order to facilitate love, hope, and faith in the marriage union, thus inspiring the couple to continue working on the marriage. Sometimes it is a one-time challenge and other times you have been in a pattern of non-communicating or mis-communicating and one just does not know how to get out of it. Helping couples to understand this pattern is a significant factor to rebuilding closeness. Often, couples enter a marriage with different learned patterns of communication, sometimes patters that are at odds with one another. In order to facilitate better communication patterns between the couple, it is the counselor’s responsibility to engage the couple in understanding their personal and marital communication patterns and evaluate what works in their situation (Worthington, 2005, p. 65)
Closeness
One thing we've discovered about the differences between men and women when it comes to love, relationships and sexual intimacy, in which is the stereo type that women want to be "romanced." The trouble is each spouse may have a remarkably different idea about what that means, thus the problem. “Closeness is necessary for a healthy marriage, yet the types and levels needed varies from one marriage to another, from partner to anther and sometimes from one moment to the next” (Worthington, 2005, p. 68) As closeness and intimacy is often so closely related to a person’s personal feelings of love, it is vital to help the couple track and understand that a loss of love is not inevitably final. I think when partners get on the same page or balance, both partners get what they want in their relationships and marriages. According to Worthington, Jr.,” Each person needs to establish a unique balance among distance, coaction, and intimacy (Worthington, 2005, p. 68)

Reference:
Worthington, E. L. (2005). Hope-focused marriage counseling: A guide to brief therapy. Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press.
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Little Mrs. Perfect Relationship

Have you ever talked to women who say they have a healthy,
functional relationship because they're "Got their man Sprung"? These
Women will often brag that their man is securely wrapped around their, neatly acrylic finger
and have them "Put a Ring on it".



Well, Don’t Believe the hype, If Mrs. Berry can get dropped like a hot Black Berry Pie any One Can!

These armature Divas mistaken if they think playing mind games with their guy is going to make him stick around. I beg to differ on that one.

The late-night stalker phone calls, the jealousy ploys and
getting-him-to-change ultimatums are all short-lived strategies
guaranteed to make him leave eventually.

You and I know that getting your man to stick it out with you for
the long run is not based on lies or deception. Classy women such
as you and I, should be above scheming and manipulative tactics that
will only make that fish flop back to sea.

(Assuming of course, that a respectable guy would fall for a game
player in the first place!)

The self-respecting woman is good at catching their guy by having
them come HER way without having to tug on his strings like a mad
puppeteer. Their attitude simply leads them to do the things that
condition a man's mind into exuding gentlemanly behavior. (...or the
kind of mentality that gives HER the strength to move on if he
isn't right for her!)

It's her attitude that keeps men from overstepping their
boundaries, without making them feel chained to the proverbial ball.

In fact, today we'll be covering three traits that are part of what
a quality woman IS and does in her daily dealings with the
oh-so-mysterious opposite sex.

1. LET HIM PLAY THE GENTLEMAN
In this modern age of political correctness and equal rights, men
and women are on equal footing in many fields, be it business,
arts, entertainment, politics, and so on. The dynamics in
male-female relations have changed so much over the past few
decades that traditional roles are now interchangeable.

No longer does the wife have to stay at home and watch over the
kids by default. Nowadays, it isn't rare to find double-income
families or those that have the Dad working out of home while Mom
is carving out a kick-ass career for herself in the office.

I'm all for these new changes taking place in the social landscape,
but I ask you: where does that leave men and women in the dating
scene? Are guys supposed to let us open the door by ourselves?
Are we free to walk home alone as we part ways at the end of the
night?

Most of all, he supposed to pick up the tab, or at least split
it?

Such convoluted questions, are they not? But here's my take on the
whole matter - sure, with equal rights come equal responsibility.
Yet, women are the ones who give birth, who have to put up with
uncomfortable fashion trends and who, in many cases, are STILL paid
less than the men who do the SAME work.

So I say, let him be the gentleman if he's dating you. When it
comes to love and courtship, it is a natural given that men are the
pursuers and we are the, um, pursues (for lack of a better term).

Therefore, it follows that said pursuer will want to go out of HIS
way to please his dream girl. The losers on the other hand, will
let her pay for the whole bill.

Besides, who says you're going to make him pay for ALL of your dates?
There's nothing wrong with splitting the tab after you've gotten Married or
more serious later on.

At the beginning however, don't stop him when picks up the bill.
Let him prove his worth to you, and then you can take it from there.
Even in the face of equality, don't start correcting your man if he
wants to treat you a like a lady.

The only thing though, is that you shouldn't come across as though
you're entitled to it just because you're sharing the same
breathing space as him. Be pleasantly friendly, engage him in good
conversation, and show REAL interest in what he has to say.

In other words, be a good date in order to "earn" his chivalrous
affections. Just remember to show him that you appreciate those
little things that he does for you.

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