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The holidays are the perfect time to say Thank YOU for

The holidays are the perfect time to say Thank YOU for all your support throughout the year. Hope you are soaking up all the special moments this holiday weekend has in store. One of the most precious gifts you can give to yourself this time of year is to truly be in the moment. It's too easy to get caught up in the chaos of this busy season and miss out on the reason for spending time with loved ones. I hope you will stop and be mindfully aware, for right now is the most important moment of your life. Make the most of each moment shared with those you love and reflect the times share with those whom are far and near. Our home is filled with smiles, giggles and wonder - from lil bit recognition of a Dog lap top and the talking fetch "balls" and dog biscuits for rein deer , and Spoil John Deer Bed room Set !!these times are so precious.......

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New Marriage After Divorce Will Always Have Some Baggage

New Marriage After Divorce Will Always Have Some Baggage

All new marriages and relationships have their own complex. It takes a few up and downs for couples to get accustom to each other mood and grooves. This can be more a challenge if you have a religion practice not to shack up before the marriage. Therefore When you consider the "normal" challenges of a newlywed couple and then consider the challenges of a new marriage after divorce it's easy to see that things could get tricky.

After a divorce it would be virtually impossible not to have some baggage financial or emotionally. That is very often where the trouble begins. You are so on pin and needles worried that your new partner will act just like your old partner or stress yourself not wanting to act like their old partner or make the same mistakes in your new marriage that you made in your old marriage, as a result that it’s easy to misinterpret situations/ may not really be there.


You have to be stop in the tracks and face reality of what is, or isn't, going on. If you were really hurt by something your ex did you will be even more prone to seeing things that may not be there.
That one of reasons, it always safe to consider how you exit a relationship, such example One of the best examples of this is if there was cheating in your previous marriage. It's extraordinarily difficult to learn to trust again after you have been cheated on OR If you did the cheating on your ex-partner with your new lover It would be very easy to start seeing "signs" that your new spouse is doing the same thing all over again.

Of course, it's not impossible that they are, but in a lot of cases it's just the insecurity of one partner.

The good news is that it can actually be pretty easy to avoid falling into this trap: don't remarry right away.

A lot of people will remarry too quickly because they are hurt, lonely and afraid of being alone. That is a huge mistake. The more time you allow yourself to deal with the issues from your past marriage and heal, the less likely you will be to bring all that baggage into your next marriage.

By dealing with it all you have a much better chance of your new marriage after divorce being a happy one.

It's also a bad idea to start dating too soon. You aren't going to be your best and for that reason it's likely that you won't attract the best to you.

For example, if you were cheated on or miss treated and you jump right back into the dating pool right after your marriage ends, you will still be in that "victim" mode. Few confidant, independent people are going to be attracted to someone like that.

Who will be attracted so someone like that will be someone who is also wounded and they are looking for someone to either enable them or to walk on so they can prove their own strength. Not at all what you want.

Depending on the depth of the issues in your past marriage you may even want to see a counselor for a while before you start dating again. It's easy to fool ourselves and convince ourselves that we have dealt with everything, but in many cases we haven't dealt with it at all, we've just pushed it down and ignored it. That is when it's most likely to come back and bite you.

Dealing with the past and taking your time before you take the plunge again, is the best way of ensuring that your new marriage after divorce will work out much better than the first one did.


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Life Full of "Junk "

The New Year is always a good time to declutter your home.
Is it possible that you have a room that is
chock full of clutter? I’m guilty my Office and Shoe Room!!!
Maybe that is your "junk room" and you literally
keep the door closed. Maybe it's your garage.
Maybe it's your bedroom and you know you would
sleep better if you got rid of the clutter that's
lurking nearby.
Clutter can put you in a bad mood, but an orderly
room will make your energy soar.
Sometimes the clutter can be so bad that you have
to attack it by "dividing and conquering."
Take just one part of the clutter and work on
that, so you can see progress quickly, instead of
being overwhelmed.
Here's how to "divide and conquer" a room with a
mishmash of clutter.
Start with the clothes.
Suppose it's your bedroom which is a Royal Mess.
(Of course if we were royalty, we wouldn't have
a mess, because we would have a lot of people to
clean up after us, but never mind.)
You need your clothes - and if your clothes are
in order, not only will you feel better; your
wardrobe will seem to have tripled. It's not
good for clothing to be all wrinkled up stashed
on the floor (but try convincing a teenager of
that).
Once you deal with the clothing, you will have
significantly diminished the clutter in the room.
Clothing in this case includes anything made
of fabric - towels, sheets, tablecloths, curtains,
and so forth.
As you can see, dealing with the clothing can turn
into a big task. But if you ONLY focus on the fabrics
for now, it does make your decluttering job easier.
So this week I must focus on my "junk room," wherever that is,
ignore everything else except the clothing! Examine
each piece to see what it needs - washing, dry cleaning,
ironing, or just hanging up or putting away.
Not enough places to put the clothes away? Then either
eliminate some, or get a double-hanger for my closet.

You can Join me for the Holiday to eliminate as much as you can!! Donate you will have
simplified your life.
If you're busy today, then give this job whatever time
you have between doctor appointments and Love Birding, I had little time but at least I can see progress. Join me to Commit to ten minutes
per day to deal with clothing - until it becomes a habit.
You'll feel so proud of your closets - in no time!
My friend Mimi Tanner and Oak Publishing book, Declutter Fast, has hints and methods which
will declutter your life immediately - it can be done,
and literally thousands of readers of this book have
done exactly this! You'll breathe a sigh of relief
when your home is in order!
Whether you decide to get decluttered in one day, or
little by little, I encourage you to keep making
progress - because eventually you will reach your
goal of an orderly home.
And stay tuned to this newsletter for more tips on how
to declutter your world.
Every effort we make adds up. Here's to order in our lives!

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Keeping In Touch With Loved Ones!!!Sisters,Brothers, Cousions, Inlaws, Unts,Uncle ETC....

Close relationships are very important in life. They can help keep you feeling loved and have confidence in yourself. Having the support of your loved ones is probably one of the most important factors in your life. It may be easier when everyone is living at home but there are still ways to remain close when everyone moves out on their own.

The first and best way is to keep in touch as best you can. These days with the social networks, email and texting, keeping in touch is a whole lot easier than it ever used to be. I have a family that lives in West Coast and the social networks is exactly how we keep in touch. Being able to post pictures of each other's family to keep tabs on how everyone is growing is a big plus. We can watch each other's children grow up and even though we still miss stuff we do not feel so detached.

We decided to keep close relationships by contributing some of our favorite photos that we have taken throughout the year and sending them to each other in alternate years to put together a new photo album each year. That way when the holidays come around everyone can enjoy the new album along with the older editions.

Scrapbooking is a Huge suggestion each child can his or her own scrap book for different things that have occurred in thier lives or our children's lives. Then, just like the photo albums we bring them along to holiday or other family gatherings for everyone to enjoy.

Now, of course, not every relationship can be all sunshine and roses all the time. To keep our relationships close we know how to handle those times when someone has a problem and is not realizing that they are snapping at everyone that gets in their way.

The best way to handle this type of problem is to really show that you care and ask what the problem is and offer to help any way you can. This shows the family member that you are concerned and willing to help if needed. When people come outside themselves and put themselves out there to help a loved one this helps the relationship stay close.

Confidence and self-assurance is also key to healthy relationships with other people. If you know who you are and are comfortable in your own skin then other relationships come easy, especially if the other person in the relationship is confident and self-assured. too.

Learn to listen to what others are saying. If you listen closely then you will hear and be able to decipher the signals they are sending out. You will be able to pick up on the nuances and subtleties of their speech and body language to discern their meanings.

Commit yourself to a daily ritual of learning to reflect upon yourself and your feelings. This may take some time to accomplish but do not give up. The better you get at it then you will be able to do the same with all your other close relationships.

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BENEFITS & CONFLICTS OF MARRIAGE...part I

BENEFITS OF MARRIAGE...==========

· "When marriages end, productivity gains are disrupted. In one study of younger workers, husbands earned on average $11.33 per hour, single men earned $10.38 per hour and divorced and separated men earned $9.61 per hour."(Personal Communication, February 2001)

· "A wife increases a man's salary by about as much as a college education."(Waite & victims of violent crime in any given year than married women." (Criminal Victimization in United States, Department of Justice,1999)

· "Adults from non-intact families were 70% more likely to have circulatory problems, 56% more likely to show signs of mental illness, 27% more likely tohave chronic aches and pains and 26% more likely to rate their overall health as poor." (Olle Lundberg, Social Science and Medicine, 1993)

Nevertheless, these astonish statics demonstrate a mere benefic to be married, especially those relationships that involve kids in which influences a child future to have a positive role model for what a healthy marriage should look like. When one is faced with troubles it can be an uncertain path to your future that may cause stress as you know, I've been there myself! However it’s less stress full when you have a proven system for marriage success and someone who has been there to help. Research has proven that marriage typically brings a host of important benefits to African American men, women, and children.

Married couples are happier, and choose healthier behaviors than their unmarried peers, and their children typically fare better in life. Couples, who take a marriage education course, make their relationship stronger and are less likely to divorce. Gaining marriage skills and knowledge before marriage will assure that couple achieves you dream of a happy, healthy long commitment and lifelong marriage and/ or Pre-marriage education can prevent many of unnecessary head ach "Will He Marry You - Do You Have a Marriage-Bound Relationship.

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Remedy for a Broken Heart, Will the grass grow Greener

Unless you have been living in a bubble, you have probably been gutted and discourage when a relationship ended. Just what is the solution for a broken heart?

Your first step is to see if your love can be saved. Sometimes mist of the storm, we can do things we later regret. Perhaps you separated or shut down from your partner but now have regrets. Why not see will he or she take you back? It is worth apologizing and asking for forgiveness if you believe that person was your soul mate.
It may be that you both said things that you regret. Often couples can come under severe stress due to money worries, concerns over children, health not to mention families. See if your love is worth saving. You can go to counseling for impartial help and advice. It is worth a try, as getting back together with your loved one, is a very good solution for a broken heart.

Sometimes though a relationship ends and it is final. Yes you will feel like you could never be satisfied with another, but time heals all wounds. Just like a loved one’s death, the loss of a breakup, is in GODS plan so handle it quite like you would if that person had died. Allow yourself time to grieve for what you have lost but then accept it is time to move on.

You need to look after yourself. Why not use that holiday you always wanted or go visit some family and friends. Make changes to your daily routine. Your account will be different now so instead of approaching it with fear running away from everything that get close to your heart, seize this opportunity with both hands and water that water till its greener. Who knows, something or someone better may just be around that next corner.

I do not think that we only have one soul mate in life. Sure partners who suffer when they are teenagers and are still running in their eighties are great. But there are other twosomes out there who may have made mistakes in their own pasts but have now found happiness again.

We change as individuals as we travel through the journey of life. Sometimes our significant other changes as well and as a couple, we adapt and stick together. Often though, we think we need different things and while you may be heartbroken at first, you may eventually be happier with someone else; or even on your own.

If you find that your heartbreak is overwhelming, please talk to someone. There are plenty of counselors and charities that help those who are suffering from a broken heart. Consider helping others as well. When we try and visit sick people in hospital, help out at a children's school or visit elderly neighbors, we often forget about our own problems.

It is very easy to wallow in feeling of sadness but that will only generate despair. Life is too small to be miserable. You have complete control over your feelings. So get out there and find yourself the best remedy for a broken heart.

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Remedy for a Broken Heart, Will the grass grow Greener

Remedy for a Broken Heart, Will the grass grow Green Again

Unless you have been living in a bubble, you have probably been gutted and discourage when a relationship ended. Just what is the solution for a broken heart?

Your first step is to see if your love can be saved. Sometimes mist of the storm, we can do things we later regret. Perhaps you separated or shut down from your partner but now have regrets. Why not see will he or she take you back? It is worth apologizing and asking for forgiveness if you believe that person was your soul mate.
It may be that you both said things that you regret. Often couples can come under severe stress due to money worries, concerns over children, health not to mention families. See if your love is worth saving. You can go to counseling for impartial help and advice. It is worth a try, as getting back together with your loved one, is a very good solution for a broken heart.

Sometimes though a relationship ends and it is final. Yes you will feel like you could never be satisfied with another, but time heals all wounds. Just like a loved one’s death, the loss of a breakup, is in GODS plan so handle it quite like you would if that person had died. Allow yourself time to grieve for what you have lost but then accept it is time to move on.

You need to look after yourself. Why not use that holiday you always wanted or go visit some family and friends. Make changes to your daily routine. Your account will be different now so instead of approaching it with fear running away from everything that get close to your heart, seize this opportunity with both hands and water that water till its greener. Who knows, something or someone better may just be around that next corner.

I do not think that we only have one soul mate in life. Sure partners who suffer when they are teenagers and are still running in their eighties are great. But there are other twosomes out there who may have made mistakes in their own pasts but have now found happiness again.

We change as individuals as we travel through the journey of life. Sometimes our significant other changes as well and as a couple, we adapt and stick together. Often though, we think we need different things and while you may be heartbroken at first, you may eventually be happier with someone else; or even on your own.

If you find that your heartbreak is overwhelming, please talk to someone. There are plenty of counselors and charities that help those who are suffering from a broken heart. Consider helping others as well. When we try and visit sick people in hospital, help out at a children's school or visit elderly neighbors, we often forget about our own problems.

It is very easy to wallow in feeling of sadness but that will only generate despair. Life is too small to be miserable. You have complete control over your feelings. So get out there and find yourself the best remedy for a broken heart.

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