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The holidays are the perfect time to say Thank YOU for

The holidays are the perfect time to say Thank YOU for all your support throughout the year. Hope you are soaking up all the special moments this holiday weekend has in store. One of the most precious gifts you can give to yourself this time of year is to truly be in the moment. It's too easy to get caught up in the chaos of this busy season and miss out on the reason for spending time with loved ones. I hope you will stop and be mindfully aware, for right now is the most important moment of your life. Make the most of each moment shared with those you love and reflect the times share with those whom are far and near. Our home is filled with smiles, giggles and wonder - from lil bit recognition of a Dog lap top and the talking fetch "balls" and dog biscuits for rein deer , and Spoil John Deer Bed room Set !!these times are so precious.......

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New Marriage After Divorce Will Always Have Some Baggage

New Marriage After Divorce Will Always Have Some Baggage

All new marriages and relationships have their own complex. It takes a few up and downs for couples to get accustom to each other mood and grooves. This can be more a challenge if you have a religion practice not to shack up before the marriage. Therefore When you consider the "normal" challenges of a newlywed couple and then consider the challenges of a new marriage after divorce it's easy to see that things could get tricky.

After a divorce it would be virtually impossible not to have some baggage financial or emotionally. That is very often where the trouble begins. You are so on pin and needles worried that your new partner will act just like your old partner or stress yourself not wanting to act like their old partner or make the same mistakes in your new marriage that you made in your old marriage, as a result that it’s easy to misinterpret situations/ may not really be there.


You have to be stop in the tracks and face reality of what is, or isn't, going on. If you were really hurt by something your ex did you will be even more prone to seeing things that may not be there.
That one of reasons, it always safe to consider how you exit a relationship, such example One of the best examples of this is if there was cheating in your previous marriage. It's extraordinarily difficult to learn to trust again after you have been cheated on OR If you did the cheating on your ex-partner with your new lover It would be very easy to start seeing "signs" that your new spouse is doing the same thing all over again.

Of course, it's not impossible that they are, but in a lot of cases it's just the insecurity of one partner.

The good news is that it can actually be pretty easy to avoid falling into this trap: don't remarry right away.

A lot of people will remarry too quickly because they are hurt, lonely and afraid of being alone. That is a huge mistake. The more time you allow yourself to deal with the issues from your past marriage and heal, the less likely you will be to bring all that baggage into your next marriage.

By dealing with it all you have a much better chance of your new marriage after divorce being a happy one.

It's also a bad idea to start dating too soon. You aren't going to be your best and for that reason it's likely that you won't attract the best to you.

For example, if you were cheated on or miss treated and you jump right back into the dating pool right after your marriage ends, you will still be in that "victim" mode. Few confidant, independent people are going to be attracted to someone like that.

Who will be attracted so someone like that will be someone who is also wounded and they are looking for someone to either enable them or to walk on so they can prove their own strength. Not at all what you want.

Depending on the depth of the issues in your past marriage you may even want to see a counselor for a while before you start dating again. It's easy to fool ourselves and convince ourselves that we have dealt with everything, but in many cases we haven't dealt with it at all, we've just pushed it down and ignored it. That is when it's most likely to come back and bite you.

Dealing with the past and taking your time before you take the plunge again, is the best way of ensuring that your new marriage after divorce will work out much better than the first one did.


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Life Full of "Junk "

The New Year is always a good time to declutter your home.
Is it possible that you have a room that is
chock full of clutter? I’m guilty my Office and Shoe Room!!!
Maybe that is your "junk room" and you literally
keep the door closed. Maybe it's your garage.
Maybe it's your bedroom and you know you would
sleep better if you got rid of the clutter that's
lurking nearby.
Clutter can put you in a bad mood, but an orderly
room will make your energy soar.
Sometimes the clutter can be so bad that you have
to attack it by "dividing and conquering."
Take just one part of the clutter and work on
that, so you can see progress quickly, instead of
being overwhelmed.
Here's how to "divide and conquer" a room with a
mishmash of clutter.
Start with the clothes.
Suppose it's your bedroom which is a Royal Mess.
(Of course if we were royalty, we wouldn't have
a mess, because we would have a lot of people to
clean up after us, but never mind.)
You need your clothes - and if your clothes are
in order, not only will you feel better; your
wardrobe will seem to have tripled. It's not
good for clothing to be all wrinkled up stashed
on the floor (but try convincing a teenager of
that).
Once you deal with the clothing, you will have
significantly diminished the clutter in the room.
Clothing in this case includes anything made
of fabric - towels, sheets, tablecloths, curtains,
and so forth.
As you can see, dealing with the clothing can turn
into a big task. But if you ONLY focus on the fabrics
for now, it does make your decluttering job easier.
So this week I must focus on my "junk room," wherever that is,
ignore everything else except the clothing! Examine
each piece to see what it needs - washing, dry cleaning,
ironing, or just hanging up or putting away.
Not enough places to put the clothes away? Then either
eliminate some, or get a double-hanger for my closet.

You can Join me for the Holiday to eliminate as much as you can!! Donate you will have
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If you're busy today, then give this job whatever time
you have between doctor appointments and Love Birding, I had little time but at least I can see progress. Join me to Commit to ten minutes
per day to deal with clothing - until it becomes a habit.
You'll feel so proud of your closets - in no time!
My friend Mimi Tanner and Oak Publishing book, Declutter Fast, has hints and methods which
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and literally thousands of readers of this book have
done exactly this! You'll breathe a sigh of relief
when your home is in order!
Whether you decide to get decluttered in one day, or
little by little, I encourage you to keep making
progress - because eventually you will reach your
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Keeping In Touch With Loved Ones!!!Sisters,Brothers, Cousions, Inlaws, Unts,Uncle ETC....

Close relationships are very important in life. They can help keep you feeling loved and have confidence in yourself. Having the support of your loved ones is probably one of the most important factors in your life. It may be easier when everyone is living at home but there are still ways to remain close when everyone moves out on their own.

The first and best way is to keep in touch as best you can. These days with the social networks, email and texting, keeping in touch is a whole lot easier than it ever used to be. I have a family that lives in West Coast and the social networks is exactly how we keep in touch. Being able to post pictures of each other's family to keep tabs on how everyone is growing is a big plus. We can watch each other's children grow up and even though we still miss stuff we do not feel so detached.

We decided to keep close relationships by contributing some of our favorite photos that we have taken throughout the year and sending them to each other in alternate years to put together a new photo album each year. That way when the holidays come around everyone can enjoy the new album along with the older editions.

Scrapbooking is a Huge suggestion each child can his or her own scrap book for different things that have occurred in thier lives or our children's lives. Then, just like the photo albums we bring them along to holiday or other family gatherings for everyone to enjoy.

Now, of course, not every relationship can be all sunshine and roses all the time. To keep our relationships close we know how to handle those times when someone has a problem and is not realizing that they are snapping at everyone that gets in their way.

The best way to handle this type of problem is to really show that you care and ask what the problem is and offer to help any way you can. This shows the family member that you are concerned and willing to help if needed. When people come outside themselves and put themselves out there to help a loved one this helps the relationship stay close.

Confidence and self-assurance is also key to healthy relationships with other people. If you know who you are and are comfortable in your own skin then other relationships come easy, especially if the other person in the relationship is confident and self-assured. too.

Learn to listen to what others are saying. If you listen closely then you will hear and be able to decipher the signals they are sending out. You will be able to pick up on the nuances and subtleties of their speech and body language to discern their meanings.

Commit yourself to a daily ritual of learning to reflect upon yourself and your feelings. This may take some time to accomplish but do not give up. The better you get at it then you will be able to do the same with all your other close relationships.

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BENEFITS & CONFLICTS OF MARRIAGE...part I

BENEFITS OF MARRIAGE...==========

· "When marriages end, productivity gains are disrupted. In one study of younger workers, husbands earned on average $11.33 per hour, single men earned $10.38 per hour and divorced and separated men earned $9.61 per hour."(Personal Communication, February 2001)

· "A wife increases a man's salary by about as much as a college education."(Waite & victims of violent crime in any given year than married women." (Criminal Victimization in United States, Department of Justice,1999)

· "Adults from non-intact families were 70% more likely to have circulatory problems, 56% more likely to show signs of mental illness, 27% more likely tohave chronic aches and pains and 26% more likely to rate their overall health as poor." (Olle Lundberg, Social Science and Medicine, 1993)

Nevertheless, these astonish statics demonstrate a mere benefic to be married, especially those relationships that involve kids in which influences a child future to have a positive role model for what a healthy marriage should look like. When one is faced with troubles it can be an uncertain path to your future that may cause stress as you know, I've been there myself! However it’s less stress full when you have a proven system for marriage success and someone who has been there to help. Research has proven that marriage typically brings a host of important benefits to African American men, women, and children.

Married couples are happier, and choose healthier behaviors than their unmarried peers, and their children typically fare better in life. Couples, who take a marriage education course, make their relationship stronger and are less likely to divorce. Gaining marriage skills and knowledge before marriage will assure that couple achieves you dream of a happy, healthy long commitment and lifelong marriage and/ or Pre-marriage education can prevent many of unnecessary head ach "Will He Marry You - Do You Have a Marriage-Bound Relationship.

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Remedy for a Broken Heart, Will the grass grow Greener

Unless you have been living in a bubble, you have probably been gutted and discourage when a relationship ended. Just what is the solution for a broken heart?

Your first step is to see if your love can be saved. Sometimes mist of the storm, we can do things we later regret. Perhaps you separated or shut down from your partner but now have regrets. Why not see will he or she take you back? It is worth apologizing and asking for forgiveness if you believe that person was your soul mate.
It may be that you both said things that you regret. Often couples can come under severe stress due to money worries, concerns over children, health not to mention families. See if your love is worth saving. You can go to counseling for impartial help and advice. It is worth a try, as getting back together with your loved one, is a very good solution for a broken heart.

Sometimes though a relationship ends and it is final. Yes you will feel like you could never be satisfied with another, but time heals all wounds. Just like a loved one’s death, the loss of a breakup, is in GODS plan so handle it quite like you would if that person had died. Allow yourself time to grieve for what you have lost but then accept it is time to move on.

You need to look after yourself. Why not use that holiday you always wanted or go visit some family and friends. Make changes to your daily routine. Your account will be different now so instead of approaching it with fear running away from everything that get close to your heart, seize this opportunity with both hands and water that water till its greener. Who knows, something or someone better may just be around that next corner.

I do not think that we only have one soul mate in life. Sure partners who suffer when they are teenagers and are still running in their eighties are great. But there are other twosomes out there who may have made mistakes in their own pasts but have now found happiness again.

We change as individuals as we travel through the journey of life. Sometimes our significant other changes as well and as a couple, we adapt and stick together. Often though, we think we need different things and while you may be heartbroken at first, you may eventually be happier with someone else; or even on your own.

If you find that your heartbreak is overwhelming, please talk to someone. There are plenty of counselors and charities that help those who are suffering from a broken heart. Consider helping others as well. When we try and visit sick people in hospital, help out at a children's school or visit elderly neighbors, we often forget about our own problems.

It is very easy to wallow in feeling of sadness but that will only generate despair. Life is too small to be miserable. You have complete control over your feelings. So get out there and find yourself the best remedy for a broken heart.

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Remedy for a Broken Heart, Will the grass grow Greener

Remedy for a Broken Heart, Will the grass grow Green Again

Unless you have been living in a bubble, you have probably been gutted and discourage when a relationship ended. Just what is the solution for a broken heart?

Your first step is to see if your love can be saved. Sometimes mist of the storm, we can do things we later regret. Perhaps you separated or shut down from your partner but now have regrets. Why not see will he or she take you back? It is worth apologizing and asking for forgiveness if you believe that person was your soul mate.
It may be that you both said things that you regret. Often couples can come under severe stress due to money worries, concerns over children, health not to mention families. See if your love is worth saving. You can go to counseling for impartial help and advice. It is worth a try, as getting back together with your loved one, is a very good solution for a broken heart.

Sometimes though a relationship ends and it is final. Yes you will feel like you could never be satisfied with another, but time heals all wounds. Just like a loved one’s death, the loss of a breakup, is in GODS plan so handle it quite like you would if that person had died. Allow yourself time to grieve for what you have lost but then accept it is time to move on.

You need to look after yourself. Why not use that holiday you always wanted or go visit some family and friends. Make changes to your daily routine. Your account will be different now so instead of approaching it with fear running away from everything that get close to your heart, seize this opportunity with both hands and water that water till its greener. Who knows, something or someone better may just be around that next corner.

I do not think that we only have one soul mate in life. Sure partners who suffer when they are teenagers and are still running in their eighties are great. But there are other twosomes out there who may have made mistakes in their own pasts but have now found happiness again.

We change as individuals as we travel through the journey of life. Sometimes our significant other changes as well and as a couple, we adapt and stick together. Often though, we think we need different things and while you may be heartbroken at first, you may eventually be happier with someone else; or even on your own.

If you find that your heartbreak is overwhelming, please talk to someone. There are plenty of counselors and charities that help those who are suffering from a broken heart. Consider helping others as well. When we try and visit sick people in hospital, help out at a children's school or visit elderly neighbors, we often forget about our own problems.

It is very easy to wallow in feeling of sadness but that will only generate despair. Life is too small to be miserable. You have complete control over your feelings. So get out there and find yourself the best remedy for a broken heart.

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Making A Case Statment for Pre-Marital Education

Making A Case Statment for Pre-Marital Education
Dr. Monica Watts -Hopkins Baldwin
Department of Psychology
MS Professional Counseling Student
Liberty University, Lynchburg VA
Mwatts3@liberty.edu


Indeed to have preventative programs to help married couples deal with marital challenges with a practical approach is particularly valuable. Dysfunctional marriages negatively affect the life of each partner, family, and community. Premarital education is in an effort to push happy and healthy marriages.
Due to my depth clinical health care experience, all prevention measures should be viewed as advantageous means to the end. Government and religious establishments should develop Premarital education and counseling for the health of the community incorporated with Children and Family Services. “Child Protective Services (CPS) is the name of a governmental agency in many states of the United States that responds to reports of child abuse or neglect. Some states use other names, often attempting to reflect more family-centered (as opposed to child-centered) practices, such as "Department of Children & Family Services" (DCFS). CPS is also known by the name of "Department of Social Services" (DSS) or simply "Social Services."
Awareness of the psychology effects of divorce and single parent household, can recover the entire family structure avoiding marital dysfunction that may arise to domestic violence, child abuse, and mental health issues. “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure” (Benjamin Franklin). “There are many reasons to expect a mother’s (re)marriage or union formation to improve the lives of children. For example, remarriage is associated with substantial improvement in the economic well-being of women and their children after a marital dissolution (Holden and Smock 1991; Peterson 1996 as cited in (Sweeney).

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BibliographySweeney, M. M. (n.d.). Diverse Pathways into Step families and the Emotional Well-Being of Adolescents. Retrieved 11 27, 2011, from Princeton: http://paa2005.princeton.edu/download.aspx?submissionId=51395

Evaluating Your Marriage Break Up- Take The Time

Evaluating Your Marriage Break Up- Take The TimeYou may be feeling quite overwhelmed if you are dealing with a marriage break up. With all there is to think about and deal with you may not know where to start. It is best to step back, clear your head and then sort everything out logically and if possible without too much emotion attached.

When you get married you believe that the marriage will last forever and it can come as a big shock when that marriage falls apart. Your planned life has suddenly changed drastically and you aren't sure where your life is heading anymore. Then there are so many issues to take care of, both emotionally and financially. The issues can be much worse if you have children involved who will also be affected by a divorce.

There may be a chance that you can work things out and get your marriage back together. This does happen between couples if they can sit down and talk about what the problems are in their marriage without it turning into an argument. If you find that every time you try to talk about things you both walk away angrier than before, then perhaps you should use a mediator.

A marriage counselor can help you to talk things through and work out your issues. A church pastor or minister is another option and often quite a good one. A pastor tends to be more committed to helping save marriages as it is what the church firmly believes in. A pastor will genuinely want to help you to restore your marriage and will do what he can to assist you with that.

If your marriage is beyond repair and you know that it is over for good then you need to accept that it is over and start planning for your future. A good divorce attorney is always a good idea and it really is best to get all your finances and assets settled sooner rather than later.

To settle all the financial matters you may need to consider selling your house and splitting the proceeds or one party buying out the other. You will need to split any bank account balances or loans. Then there is the furniture and appliances in your home, you will need to decide who will take what. It is best to get all of these things sorted out early so you can get closure and move on. If you delay settling these issues then it can be difficult to move on.

The hardest thing to handle during a marriage break up is if there are children involved and you need to decide on custody. It is important to put the child's best interests first and always do what is best for them. Don't try to influence the way the child feels about the other parent as this can confuse and even damage a child psychologically. You also need to be careful of the children's feelings about the divorce as many children will think that it is somehow their fault so you need to make sure that your child knows that the divorce is not his fault. Assure the children that you love them and that the problem lies between you and your ex and nothing to do with them.

Never get your children stuck in the middle of fights between you and your ex. Don't talk badly about your ex in front of them or do anything to alienate them from the other parent. Unless the children have been abused by your ex, then there should be no reason why he can't have some access to the children.

Try to work together with your ex to arrange visitation times and custody. It is best if you can work it out between you instead of dragging it through court and fighting over custody arrangements. Try to be flexible with visitation too, if your ex can't have the kids on time on his allocated night, swap it for another night. For the sake of the kids it is best to try and be negotiable.




Whatever you do, don't ever let the kids think that the divorce is their fault and don't get them caught in the middle of any arguments or custody battles. Your future planning must always incorporate your children and have them as your first priority.


Marriage break ups aren't easy but you will get through it and move on with your life.

women’s marriage attitude started to decrease since 1976

What are your hypotheses regarding the existence of these attitudes? Why do these negative trends exist?
Studies indicate that women’s marriage attitude started to decrease since 1976 and is going on to date. At first, these attitudes were triggered by factors like women’s liberation movements and sexual awareness revolution. Above 30% of women have resulted to “shack ups”, where they live together with men before marriage. Most women who are not married are still wondering whether they will have happier marriages rather than shacking up (Ford, 2010, p.2).
According to Dr. Scott Stanley there are many births which occur to married women that the unmarried. The rate of unmarried women has increased since 1960, from 5.3 percent to 41.0 percent by the end of 2009. Since 2001, births resulting from cohabiting couples have increased. Among those who get married for the first time, there is a 40-50% of divorce. Many of these marriages have ended within three to five years, especially for those who are between 25 to 29 years. However, within the first and the second year marriage seems to be nice and with few problems as compared to cohabiting.

My hypotheses regarding the presence of women attitudes and negative trends concerning shacking up is influenced by commitment priorities and women individualism. As I always say, an important decision any woman can make in life is to love, honor and cherish oneself. I truly believe a strong sense of dignity is the key to lasting happiness and fulfillment. While the media and musical artist such as Beyoncé Knowles band hit song Destiny's Child - Independent Women promote this new scheme of female liberation and independence about having a fantastic life, but they want to share it with someone special. Many women may avoid union to leave their options open, to ensure they have found just the right person. In addition, Woman as myself know that, no matter what path life may bring, they desire a partner that is going to stick together through it all in which they would need to solidify this with a commitment. Many women personal sense of commitment may or may not include legal paperwork (aka marriage), but may involve commitment trends such as a verbal agreement between a couple to date one another exclusively. Every woman's expectations are different, and has become perfectly social acceptable as long as the man in their life is honoring the relationship!
Women view marriage with regards to economics, costs and benefits of relationships, and become reluctant to get married. This is clearly depicted by the interdependency theory, which tries to assess the state of relationships based on rewards and costs in order to evaluate how such relationships influence the individuals involved (Miller & Perlman, 2009, p.178). This theory assesses the level of satisfaction, value of alternatives, and income to determine the facilitating factors in establishing relationships. In essence, woman are now more independent than before because they have professional knowledge and jobs, and thus commitment is marriage is becoming low. This implies that women have alternatives that can prevent them from the risks of divorce or destructive relationships, and perhaps may assume cohabitating is more beneficial.
There had been times in my life when I had to settle, for example stuck in the middle seat on an airplane, or when my breakfast order is not correct and I do not have time to ask for a new one while late to work! It is a part of life we can not have things just perfect. However, when it comes to todays’ relationships, because women celebrated independency there is certainly no reason to settle for less than what they. Today’s women are aware there are certain things in a relationship that require compromise for example spouse wants to live in the big city, but the other is set on living in the mountains, it makes sense find a balance where both live happily.

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However, this compromise does not stand for unhealthy relationships that wear women down, and ultimately does not live up to their expectations. In conclusion, cultural standards and marital problems experienced by women can result to negative attitudes about marriage. Currently, women feel more independent because they have better alternatives, such as cohabitating rather than getting married. This is to avoid over-commitment in marriage, which is depicted by married couples. However, even young children, especially girls, get negative attitudes from their parents whose marriages are not successful. Apart from counseling marriage couples, young girls and boys should also be counseled through school programs that educate them on desirable attitudes that will promote positively about marriage in the future. The government should also create campaigns that encourage women to go for marriage counseling where they are helped to solve marriage problems.

References
Ford, A. (2010, March). The urge to merge: Does shacking up lead to breaking up? Retrieved from http://www.divinecaroline.com/22072/94998-urge-merge-shacking-lead-breaking
Miller, R., Perlman, D. (2009). Intimate relationships (5th ed.). New York, NY: McGraw-Hill.
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when a woman's fed up (No matter how you beg, no) It ain't nothing you can do about it (Nothing you can do about it) It's like running out of love If

you want to know how to get your ex-girlfriend back there is good news and bad news. The good news is that there is hope and, in many cases, things can eventually work out. The bad news is that this is not always the case. Sometimes things simply don’t work out- no matter how much you want it to.

Whether or not an ex will come back depends on a number of situations. First off: why did she leave in the first place? If it was something that you did then it might not be repairable in her eyes. If she were bored with the relationship then maybe she won’t come back. And if she doesn’t want to be in the relationship anymore then you definitely don’t want her back.

For the first scenario, if cheating is involved you have to ask yourself: if the roles were reversed, would you be willing to forgive and forget? Even if she does come back, there would always be hesitation to completely trust you again. So you have to ask yourself: why did you cheat in the first place? Obviously, something was missing.


If she left because she was bored with the relationship then you may simply not be compatible. Sometimes two people just aren’t meant to be together. No matter how much you may care for someone, you can’t make them like, or love, you. And you wouldn’t want to. Was she bored because you wouldn’t pay her attention? Were you open with her? Did you put her first? These are things that you have to ask yourself. Re-evaluating your relationship will give you answers that you need- and may not want to admit.

If she just doesn’t want to be connected to you, why would you want her back? There has to be a reason why someone would blatantly reveal this news to you and yet you keep coming back for more. If this is the sad case, then you are just setting yourself up for continuous, and repeated, heartache.

If you really want to know how to get your ex-girlfriend back then sometimes it is worth the try to talk to her one more time. Once she leaves, give her a few days to cool off. Not responding right away shows her that you are not needy. You should call her now to ask her for one last favor. If she is willing to talk you, then you can conveniently get all of your questions answered at once.

Body Language: Signs Of Falling In Love

Body Language: Signs Of Falling In Love
How can you tell that a person is already falling in love with you? A person's body language can spell out his or her true feelings and intentions for you. A person in love has that certain glow every time he or she is with that special person, but what are the other signs?

You will notice that a person is already falling for you if he can't stand being far from you, gives more smiles and laughter, mirror your actions, cannot keep his eyes off you, and have that certain glow.

Personal Space And Distance
A person in love with you would look for several ways just to be closer to you. You will know that a person's personal space has gotten smaller when he or she gets comfortable with you even in the slightest distance. And notice if in a room full of people, he will always try to stay close to you.

That person would also tend to lean his body towards you, whether when sitting down or standing up. The direction of his or her body would be always turned towards you. If not, then the direction of her eyes will show who is in her mind.

More Touch, Smiles, And Laughter
A person who is starting to fall for you would listen to you more, thus would give more reactions than he or she did during your first dates. There would be more laughter even for the cheesiest jokes. While talking, one will find in inevitable from smiling, especially during silence. This is because that person is truly enjoying his or her time with you.

He or she would also touch you from time to time. A tap on the shoulder, placing the hand on the small of the back, hugging, and holding the hands are some of the most common touching body language in falling in love.

The Mirroring Actions
This is a funny yet very sweet signal of attraction since it is done unconsciously most of the time. This is where a person would imitate the actions of that special person. For example, you will prop your chin onto your hand, the person in love with you will follow that specific action.

The Longer Stare
A person in love with you simply cannot take his eyes off you. Most especially when the feeling has just begun to develop, he or she would find difficulty in concentrating on other things. The stare is usually intimate or intense, and it is accompanied with a slight smile.

That Certain Glow
Somehow unexplainable, a person has a certain aura around him or her when he or she is in love and happy. It is due to the extreme happiness and joy coming from the inside, and this is well-reflected with a sparkle in the eyes and a smile that is hard to remove from the face.

ScienceDaily (Oct. 22, 2010) — A new meta-analysis study conducted by Syracuse University Professor Stephanie Ortigue reveals falling in love can elicit not only the same euphoric feeling as using cocaine, but also affects intellectual areas of the brain. Researchers also found falling in love only takes about a fifth of a second.

When a person falls in love, it changes him entirely and this is reflected in his or her body language. Some people fail to notice this, but these signs are definitely there. The person himself is even unaware that he is already providing hints and clues about his true feelings for that special someone. Most people find them hard to miss, and would love these signals of deep attraction sent through the silence but delivered by simple romantic actions and gestures.

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Passion, Bond and Trust

It is not uncommon, during a ladies night out or shopping to hear my peers complain about wanting to be closer to their spouse, lover or partner and want more love, passion, bond and trust. Many acknowledge that they can all improve communicating and connecting with their partner, and just do not know where or how to start? Most of us feel that way at some time in our relationships and lives.
Communication Most couples have resigned themselves to ambivalent, bland relationships full of unspoken secrets and unmet needs, but it doesn't have to be that way! One of the important areas and interventions in Worthington's (2005) book that I learned in the chapter four was concerning communication in which couples present to counseling experiencing lack of love, present communication problems. When communication between partners fades, so does love, hope, and faith in the marriage (Worthington, 2005, p. 64). The role of the counselor is to facilitate improved communication between partners in order to facilitate love, hope, and faith in the marriage union, thus inspiring the couple to continue working on the marriage. Sometimes it is a one-time challenge and other times you have been in a pattern of non-communicating or mis-communicating and one just does not know how to get out of it. Helping couples to understand this pattern is a significant factor to rebuilding closeness. Often, couples enter a marriage with different learned patterns of communication, sometimes patters that are at odds with one another. In order to facilitate better communication patterns between the couple, it is the counselor’s responsibility to engage the couple in understanding their personal and marital communication patterns and evaluate what works in their situation (Worthington, 2005, p. 65)
Closeness
One thing we've discovered about the differences between men and women when it comes to love, relationships and sexual intimacy, in which is the stereo type that women want to be "romanced." The trouble is each spouse may have a remarkably different idea about what that means, thus the problem. “Closeness is necessary for a healthy marriage, yet the types and levels needed varies from one marriage to another, from partner to anther and sometimes from one moment to the next” (Worthington, 2005, p. 68) As closeness and intimacy is often so closely related to a person’s personal feelings of love, it is vital to help the couple track and understand that a loss of love is not inevitably final. I think when partners get on the same page or balance, both partners get what they want in their relationships and marriages. According to Worthington, Jr.,” Each person needs to establish a unique balance among distance, coaction, and intimacy (Worthington, 2005, p. 68)

Reference:
Worthington, E. L. (2005). Hope-focused marriage counseling: A guide to brief therapy. Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press.
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Little Mrs. Perfect Relationship

Have you ever talked to women who say they have a healthy,
functional relationship because they're "Got their man Sprung"? These
Women will often brag that their man is securely wrapped around their, neatly acrylic finger
and have them "Put a Ring on it".



Well, Don’t Believe the hype, If Mrs. Berry can get dropped like a hot Black Berry Pie any One Can!

These armature Divas mistaken if they think playing mind games with their guy is going to make him stick around. I beg to differ on that one.

The late-night stalker phone calls, the jealousy ploys and
getting-him-to-change ultimatums are all short-lived strategies
guaranteed to make him leave eventually.

You and I know that getting your man to stick it out with you for
the long run is not based on lies or deception. Classy women such
as you and I, should be above scheming and manipulative tactics that
will only make that fish flop back to sea.

(Assuming of course, that a respectable guy would fall for a game
player in the first place!)

The self-respecting woman is good at catching their guy by having
them come HER way without having to tug on his strings like a mad
puppeteer. Their attitude simply leads them to do the things that
condition a man's mind into exuding gentlemanly behavior. (...or the
kind of mentality that gives HER the strength to move on if he
isn't right for her!)

It's her attitude that keeps men from overstepping their
boundaries, without making them feel chained to the proverbial ball.

In fact, today we'll be covering three traits that are part of what
a quality woman IS and does in her daily dealings with the
oh-so-mysterious opposite sex.

1. LET HIM PLAY THE GENTLEMAN
In this modern age of political correctness and equal rights, men
and women are on equal footing in many fields, be it business,
arts, entertainment, politics, and so on. The dynamics in
male-female relations have changed so much over the past few
decades that traditional roles are now interchangeable.

No longer does the wife have to stay at home and watch over the
kids by default. Nowadays, it isn't rare to find double-income
families or those that have the Dad working out of home while Mom
is carving out a kick-ass career for herself in the office.

I'm all for these new changes taking place in the social landscape,
but I ask you: where does that leave men and women in the dating
scene? Are guys supposed to let us open the door by ourselves?
Are we free to walk home alone as we part ways at the end of the
night?

Most of all, he supposed to pick up the tab, or at least split
it?

Such convoluted questions, are they not? But here's my take on the
whole matter - sure, with equal rights come equal responsibility.
Yet, women are the ones who give birth, who have to put up with
uncomfortable fashion trends and who, in many cases, are STILL paid
less than the men who do the SAME work.

So I say, let him be the gentleman if he's dating you. When it
comes to love and courtship, it is a natural given that men are the
pursuers and we are the, um, pursues (for lack of a better term).

Therefore, it follows that said pursuer will want to go out of HIS
way to please his dream girl. The losers on the other hand, will
let her pay for the whole bill.

Besides, who says you're going to make him pay for ALL of your dates?
There's nothing wrong with splitting the tab after you've gotten Married or
more serious later on.

At the beginning however, don't stop him when picks up the bill.
Let him prove his worth to you, and then you can take it from there.
Even in the face of equality, don't start correcting your man if he
wants to treat you a like a lady.

The only thing though, is that you shouldn't come across as though
you're entitled to it just because you're sharing the same
breathing space as him. Be pleasantly friendly, engage him in good
conversation, and show REAL interest in what he has to say.

In other words, be a good date in order to "earn" his chivalrous
affections. Just remember to show him that you appreciate those
little things that he does for you.

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In Love But My Ex Isnt- Communicate Key To Finding Answers

Love is a wonderful thing, but it can also be the source of a lot of problems. You can always live with some of the negative stuff, because love has a way of letting us overlook some of those things. All of that is perfectly normal. Unfortunately, relationships can end in a break up. Even if one of you is in love, the other may not be in love at all, or at least not enough to want to stay together. If you find yourself saying, "I'm in love, but my ex isn't" then you know how hard this type of situation can be.




Sure, being together was great...for a while. Maybe the break up happened suddenly, and caught you completely off guard. Or maybe you started seeing little cracks in the relationship but hoped they would go away or be fixed. Either way, you are now in a position you really don't want to be in.

Not so fast! You need to be cautious here. You have to make sure you are not making assumptions. You may have broke up, but you only broke up. That doesn't automatically mean that your doesn't--or never will--have feelings for you. There are a lot of reasons why break ups happen. For example, it's entirely possible that your ex broke up with you because they were loving you too deeply, and that scared them.

So, you need to find out how your ex really feels before you can say "I'm in love, but my ex isn't". It's all too easy to think you know how they feel because your emotions will be a bit out of kilter after a break. That means you could be misreading any signals they are trying to send your way. That's why it's so important to find out how they feel from them personally.

While you will want to talk to your ex about how they feel, you don't want to do it too soon. You have to give them enough time to settle down and come to terms with what has happened. Remember, the break up isn't any fun for them either. And, who knows, maybe they're saying, "I'm in love, but my ex isn't" as well. But you will never know for sure unless you ask them.

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How long you should wait before approaching them is up to you. In other words, you should know your ex better than anyone else, so you should have a pretty good idea of how much time they will need to come to grips with things. However, it's a good idea to err on the side of caution and give them a few more days than you think they need before approaching them for the first time.

As you can see, thinking thoughts like "I'm in love, but my ex isn't" doesnt help anything. They are nothing more than assumptions until you find out for sure. Assumptions that can make you miserable for no reason. But you don't have to be miserable, and could actually end up being happily together again, if you simply ask your ex how they really feel.

The material contained in this and any other communication from Monica Watts Hopkins-Baldwin is an expression of opinion and is not to be construed as legal, medical or professional advice. This material may only to be used for personal entertainment purposes.

Live In A Wife Led Relationship

Live In A Wife Led Relationship





What is a wife led relationship? Sure there may be times when you simply agree to your wife's decisions (often to stop her nagging) but that isn't typically what is referred to as a wife led relationship. This type of relationship is more when the wife becomes the dominant partner and the husband is completely submissive.

There are different degrees to wife led relationships with some having the wife only mildly dominant and perhaps only in certain circumstances. Then there are the more severe situations when the man is like a slave to the woman and does everything she requests. The man will make no decisions whatsoever regarding anything in the relationship or the home; it will all be done by the woman. The man will basically be a slave to the woman. They will appear reasonably normal in public but you will still find that the woman is making the decisions.

Some men actually like being the submissive one in the relationship and may find themselves not being as submissive as they like because the wife isn't all that comfortable with it. In a lesser degree of being submissive a man may just hand over the major decision making to his wife but still have some control himself.

Although some women enjoy being the dominant party, some women will find it very off putting, particularly if you are asking her to be the fully dominant partner, which is what a true wife led relationship is. The man is a slave to the woman and will do everything for her.

The man will do all the chores, cleaning and cooking around the house and she may bark out orders to him and he will run and do them. Although she may want to help out around the house, men that like this type of relationship will want her to expect him to do it all. They enjoy being treated like a slave.

In a wife led relationship the woman has complete control over their sexual relationship also. The man will actually expect her to use sex as a reward for completing his chores or even as a punishment when he doesn't please her. If a woman does a chore in the home the man may be disappointed because he cannot do that chore himself and be rewarded for it.

If the wife is please with her husband’s performance with his chores then she will reward him by pleasing him sexually and this is what the man looks forward to. However, if she is not happy with her husband’s work around the home then she may deny him pleasure of his own while he has to please her and give her pleasure.

Some men will like the sexual side of a wife led relationship and even enjoy when pleasure is withheld as it makes it more exciting when they are rewarded next. Other men aren't as interested in the sexual enjoyment of a wife led relationship but just like the idea of the woman being the dominant partner and making the decisions.

If you think you would like to try a wife led relationship then certainly discuss the idea with your wife. She may be pleased to join in if you are offering to do more around the home but be prepared for her to treat you like a slave.

You can give it a test run and see how it goes and if you both enjoy it then you might continue to have an enjoyable wife led relationship.

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Relationship Psychology Makes Things Better

The perfect relationship. Nothing goes wrong. Both of you are perfectly happy all the time. NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
While we may wish for it, it simply doesn't exist. To be honest, it's the imperfections that make being together so interesting. Perhaps that's why relationship psychology is such a popular subject. One of the ways a lot of people use it is to patch things up when they get rocky, or even after a break up has happened.

The general principle behind relationship psychology is to teach both partners to recognize certain behaviors in themselves and the other person, and to arm them with effective ways of handling problems when they arise. The reason it's important to learn about it is that no two people are alike. It's typical for people to think other people think like them. In other words, they project their own point of view onto the other person, and then get frustrated when that person acts in a way that doesn't line up with their pre-conceived notions.

A large part of the problem is that the sexes tend to think so much differently from one another. For example, men tend to place more emphasis on actions. So, when a woman keeps insisting on talking things out, the man will try to avoid it. And if they can't avoid, they usually won't enjoy it. But, the catch is that women, generally speaking, do need to talk about things. Relationship psychology takes care of that problem by using this information and finding a solution that makes both parties happy.

You may not be able to have a perfect relationship, but what if you could have a happy one with virtually no arguing; where both of you feel fulfilled; where both of you feel loved and freely give love. It's not impossible. Sure, it can take some time to learn these new techniques, but it's more than worth it when you start seeing the results.

But what if you are trying to get your ex back? Psychology still works! The key is to try to get back together, but to do it in a way that's not too pushy. If you try to hard, your ex may pull even further back, and you could ruin any chances of working things out that you may have had. Knowing how your ex's mind works will give you the edge you need to get them back.

Now, you shouldn't use relationship psychology lightly, or for the wrong reasons. It's powerful stuff, and you are dealing with somebody else's life. That being said, as long as your motivations are pure, then there is nothing wrong with learning and using these tricks so the two of you can be happy together.

Having somebody special in your life is essential to being completely happy. There are times when it will take a lot of work, and other times things will be running smoothly. Either way, you can put the power of relationship psychology to work for you.


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If you Fake It the Relationship Wont Make It!!

DON'T PRETEND EVERYTHING'S OKAY

The default mode for most of us women -- especially when we are very interested in a man -- is to simply put up with what's happening and stuff down our feelings for fear of scaring him away.

You're also more prone to doing this when you've had a string of unsuccessful relationships.

The older you get and the more heartbreak you endure, the more you want to "not mess this up" -- and so you keep quiet.

You keep it "under wraps" -- even when you're seething with anger.

You say "sure!" when he suggests something you really don't feel comfortable doing.

You pretend it doesn't bother you when he isn't giving you the time and affection you need.

But doing this actually prevents you from connecting with a man and forging a deeper relationship with him!

Why?

Because he never gets to see what makes you tick.

He never gets to see -- or EXPERIENCE -- what makes you YOU.

Not just that, but the longer you go without speaking your feelings, the more you start to resent your man.

And then you start unconsciously becoming "cold" to him in a way that he can sense...and this in turn pushes him away.

DON'T MAKE HIM WRONG
Often, and especially when we've been swallowing whatever it is that's bothering us about a man, we'll end up simmering with so much anger that one day we just can't take it.

That's when, despite our best efforts, our emotions take over and everything comes out in an explosion of feelings.

What comes out is often something that sounds like an accusation to him: "How could you have spent the whole weekend with me and then not called for two whole days?!"

All he hears is that he was wrong. That's when he becomes defensive, shuts down, and can't hear you anymore.

That's also when, unfortunately, we end up with a man who becomes distant from us or pulls away altogether.

We're left holding all the cards, feeling awful, and thinking we're entirely to blame and can't make relationships work.

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Breakup 2 Makeup-Is There Such A Thing

Best Way Reuniting After A Breakup - Is There Such A Thing



Many of us get dumped and we're really not ready for the relationship to be over. In some cases we are the ones who do the dumping only to have regrets after a little time has passed. Whatever the situation is, here is the best way reuniting after a breakup.

I know some of this information can seem counter intuitive, but this method has helped thousands, maybe more, of couples reunite and after all, you don't have anything to lose at this point, do you?

So, I'll break it down in more detail and give you a step by step breakdown of just what you need to do:

1. First of all, make sure you really want to get back with your ex. Sometimes we lose sight of whether or not we really should stay in the relationship. We might feel lonely or sometimes our ego can get in the way. But make sure that the relationship is something that you should really continue with.

2. Second of all, make sure you allow your ex some time and space away from you. This is the part that will seem counter intuitive, but think about it like this; if you are still in your exes life because you are sending them texts or calling them all the time, you are still in there life.

How can they miss you and regret the decision to break up with you if you're still around? They can't. You will start to seem like a nuisance at best or a pathetic stalker at worst. Neither one of those things will make you seem irresistible to your ex.

Back off and give them time to miss you and time to breathe.

3. Fix you so when you and your ex do get back together you won't just make all the same mistakes all over again. I don't know who was most at fault for the breakup, but I do know that no one is perfect and there are always some things you can improve on. Why not start now?

The worst that can happen is that you are a better person for your next relationship.

3. Once you've completed steps one and two (and several weeks, at least, should have gone by now) contact your ex. Don't sound desperate or confrontational, just be causal and friendly and try to get together with them. By now they have missed you and if you don't make it sound like you want to badger them, they will most likely be curious about what you are up to.

During this get together, keep it easy and friendly. Laugh and joke and don't talk about getting back together. Just have fun and remind them of the good times you two used to share.

At this point it's very likely that your ex will ask you to get back together, at least it's a start in the right direction. Following these steps is the best way reuniting after a breakup, if you follow them.

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Just what is the remedy for a broken heart

The Remedy For A Broken Heart



Unless you have been lucky, you have probably been badly hurt when a relationship ended. Just what is the remedy for a broken heart?

Your first step is to see if your relationship can be salvaged. Sometimes in the heat of the situation we can do things we later regret. Perhaps you dumped your other half but now think you were too hasty. Why not see will he or she take you back? It is worth apologising and asking for another chance if you feel this person is your significant other.

It may be that you both said things that you regret. Often couples can come under severe stress due to financial worries, concerns over children, health and not to mention job related stress. Consequently resulting in unfair treatment to one another, which then leads to the possible breakup. Evaluate if this is one of the primary problems and then determine if your relationship is worth saving. If it is you can go to counselling for unbiased help and advice. It is worth a shot as getting back together with your loved one is a very good remedy for a broken heart.

Sometimes though a relationship ends and it is final. Yes, you will feel like you could never be happy again but with time your feelings will change. Treat the period after a difficult breakup exactly like you would if that person had died. Allow yourself time to grieve for what you have lost; but then acknowledge it is time to move on.

You need to look after yourself. Why not take that holiday you always wanted or go visit some family and friends. Make changes to your daily routine. Your life will be different now so instead of approaching it with fear, grab this opportunity with both hands. Who knows, something or someone better may just be around that next corner.

I do not believe that we only have one soul mate in life. Sure partners who meet when they are teenagers and are still together in their eighties are great. But there are other twosomes out there who may have made mistakes in their respective pasts, but have now found happiness again. We change as people as we travel through the journey of life. Sometimes our significant other changes as well and as a couple we adapt and stick together. Often though, we find we want different things and while you may be heartbroken at first, you may ultimately be happier with someone else or even on your own.

If you find that your heartbreak is overwhelming, please speak to someone. There are plenty of counsellors and charities that help those who are suffering from a broken heart. Consider helping others as well. When we go and visit sick people in hospital, help out at a children’s school or visit elderly neighbours, we often forget about our own problems.

It is very easy to wallow in feelings of sadness, but that will only breed despair. Life is too short to be miserable. You have complete control over your feelings. So get out there and find yourself the best remedy for a broken heart.
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Im an Invincible Dragonfly, Symbol of Wealth and Happiness

When Life Gives You Lemons, Make Lemonade!But I know that life can be tough and never more so than right now when every time you turn on the TV or glance at a newspaper you're bombarded by messages of doom and gloom from the media.
It's all too easy to let the general negativity get to you and before you know it, even you are starting to believe that there's no way to protect yourself from the hard times that the 'powers that be' are assuring us are already here. And once you give in to this kind of 'what's the point' thought pattern, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You Must Never Allow Yourself to Give in to NegativityFor example, you've a bad day at work. Maybe the boss yells at you because she's under pressure to perform. Your commute is tiring and frustrating. And when you get home it's only to find a pile of bills in the mail box and an empty refrigerator!
sometimes all it takes is a few days like this before your attitude takes a turn for the worse. Soon you're not only anticipating negative news every time you stick your head out from under the bedclothes, but, lo and behold, this is what you actually get because the Universe delivers what you expect!

Im an Invincible Dragonfly, Symbol of Wealth and HappinessJapan was once known as 'Akitsushima' or 'Land of the Dragonflies' and it's such an inspiring symbol of wealth and power that the Dragonfly is still Japan's national emblem. The Dragonfly represents renewal after great hardship. Indeed there's no better illustration of powerful regeneration than Japan's transformation from the defeat and destruction of World War II to the prosperous, secure and peaceful nation of today. Even in the face of extreme natural disasters like earthquakes and tsunamis, the Japanese people, with their belief in the power of the dragonfly, are resilient and keep their energy positive in order to move forward to successful outcomes.

So great was the belief that the Dragonfly had the power to bring success and prosperity that the mighty Samurai warriors decorated their armor with images of the Dragonfly. Even today, Japanese farmers believe that an abundance of Dragonflies in their rice fields means they can expect an equally abundant harvest.

This wonderful Japanese legend illustrates just why the Dragonfly is such a revered symbol of good fortune.
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Warning Signs - Emotional Affair

Warning Signs - Emotional Affair - Spot Them Quickly

If you are worried about your spouse and fear that you see some warning signs emotional affair than there are a few things that you can be on the lookout for. Just remember that it's very easy to let your imagination run away with you. You have to be careful to not see things that aren't really there.

Many of the tips I'm about to give you can be signs of an affair but they can also be innocent and may not mean a thing. Just don't risk making things worse by assuming something that may not be the case. If something seems wrong don't accuse your spouse, instead open a dialog with them and ask them about your concerns.

In some ways emotional affairs can be the most damaging. It may actually be a little easier to forgive a physical indiscretion since it didn't mean anything anyway, but an emotional connection with another person is particularly upsetting and hard to get over.

Here are a few possible indicators that something is going on:

1. Your spouse suddenly starts working out or has a sudden interest in wearing new and nicer clothes. Again, this might be totally innocent but if it seems like it is coming out of the blue than it may be a sign of trouble.

2. If your spouse seems to be spending a lot more time at work than normal. A lot of sudden overtime may be a sign that something is going on. Keep your eyes open and don't accuse, but it can't hurt to talk.

3. If your spouse suddenly starts talking about a co worker a lot. If all of a sudden you are hearing your spouse talk about the same person and there is a lot of affection in their tone, it may be a sign of an emotional affair. Sometimes an emotional affair can sneak up on people. Even if your spouse is starting to have feelings for someone, they may not realize just what is going on yet; all the more reason to not jump down their throats.

4. If your spouse is suddenly very private about their phone conversations and computer habits, it is a strong indicator that they are doing something they don't want you to know about. You need to find out what that "something" is (or who it is).

It's all too easy to slowly have an attraction grow between two people who spend a lot of time together and have a lot in common. That's why work place affairs happen so often. But before you run off and accuse your spouse of something that you think they have done, you had better be sure or you can really make a mess of your marriage.

Looking for warning signs emotional affair? If you are at that point it's very likely that something has happened to make you suspicious. You know the saying "where there's smoke there's fire" so assuming that you aren't just overly paranoid and jealous, by the time you start to get suspicious it's likely that there is something happening.

But before you run off and accuse your spouse of something that you think they have done, you had better be sure or you can really make a mess of your marriage.

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Action Speak Louder than Words ….What does your Spouse Body Language Say!

Action Speak Louder than Words ….What does your Spouse Body Language Say!Body language is usually more informative than words. Words by other people usually tell you what other people WANT to say, while body posture usually tells, what they really feel and think. They express for example emotions, thoughts and how they think. It is easier to lie with words, than with body language.
"When you change your body language, people will respond in a different way."
Consequences of Body Language.
Psychologists have found out that when people try to simulate body language, they change many other things. By walking more upright, people may really feel more confident. When body language is changed, people will respond different to these changes. Body language, therefore, has consequences for the interaction with other people.

Examples of body language.

Meeting People
When you meet a person for the first time, the first 10 seconds will give an impression, which to a large extent will determine whether you will like this person or not. In these first ten seconds, you will notice impressions like nervousness, seriousness, etc. These first seconds will also influence to a large extent the rest of the conversation and any further contacts. Therefore the first impression is very important.

"The first ten seconds of a meeting determine the impression you make on other people."
Eyes
An important factor in the first contact is the eyes. The eyes should look at the person. If you want to impress the person, you should open your eyes slightly more than usual, since raising the eye brows gives people the impression that they are welcome. After the first "hello", you should maintain eye contact, which prevents the impression of nervousness with the other person. You should also smile and look friendly.

First Meeting
During the first meeting, it is good to look carefully at the other person. If he or she disapproves your behavior, you should adapt your behavior. Also, behavior should be appropriate for the situation. For example, a firm and long hand shaking is quite usual for meeting a friend you have not seen for a long time, but quite inappropriate on a funeral.

Reading body signals.

The way you breathe.
By breathing you not only provide oxygen for the body. Breathing also reflects how you feel. When you are nervous or angry you will breathe faster, and when you are sad you often breathe in jerks. Like when you are crying.
Your breathings are also signs: when you want to interrupt a speaking person you can do that by inhaling loudly and shortly, a loud sigh means that you understand the thing that is being told to you.

Shrugged shoulders.
You can recognize stressed shoulders by the fact that they are a bit shrugged, which does make the head look smaller. The meaning of the signal comes from crouching in dangerous situations.
The meaning of this posing depends on the combination. In combination with big eyes it means that someone is concerned about something that is going to happen. In combination with a face that is turned away it means that the person wants to be left alone. An introvert person has nearly always those stressed shoulders.

Difference in level of both shoulders.
By most of the people the left and the right shoulder are of the same height. When they are not, it often means that someone doubts about what he is going to do. With this movement we simulate (unconscious) that we are weighing the possibilities. Sometimes when someone makes this movement, his head will move a little like he is looking above.
–> What proportion of your communication is non-verbal?
The answer most body language experts agree on is between 60% and 75%.
There is frequently confusion about this due to the generalization of
the “93/7 experiment”. More on how you can use this to your advantage a little later.
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Sweet Things To Do For Your Boyfriend

Sweet Things To Do For Your Boyfriend


There are plenty of people who think that relationships should be one sided. They expect their boyfriend to take care of them and pamper them, failing to think about the needs of their significant other. It is important for boyfriends to be taken care of; doing things for your boyfriend will help to strengthen your relationship. Taking the time to do extra things for your boyfriend will show them that you care about what they do for you and how you feel about them. These five sweet things to do for your boyfriend will help you to show him how much you really care.

Buy Him Gifts
When people think about doing something sweet for their boyfriend, they think about making big, expensive purchases. Switch things up a bit by buying your boyfriend small but meaningful gifts. Buying him some of his favorite things, including foods, can be seen as a sweet and romantic gesture.

Make Him Dinner
There are plenty of couples that will always cook together, or will always go out. While it can be fun to cook with your loved one, surprise him with a meal. Making your boyfriend dinner can be a simple gesture with multiple benefits. Your boyfriend will see that you took the time to do something special for him, and he will appreciate it.

Get Sexy
It can be easy to settle in with a usual and normal intimate life. Try to spice things up a bit by trying something new, or by wearing some new lingerie. These small changes will be seen as sweet, romantic, and sexy.

Give Him a Massage
In today's world, both men and women are at a constant frenetic pace. It can be difficult to relax and de-stress after a long day in the office. Take the time to give your boyfriend a massage after a long day of work. This small gesture will only take a few minutes, and will help to relax your man. Your willingness to give that massage will be seen as a sweet and caring gesture.

Combine the massage with the tip on getting sexy and you may be swept off your feet by your man.

Take Him to a Game
Most women think about taking their boyfriend to the different things that they want to do. Switch things up a bit by buying tickets for your boyfriend's favorite sports team. He will be excited about the game, but will be more excited that you want to share that experience with him.

When people think about doing something sweet for their boyfriend, they think about buying him things. Many girlfriends and boyfriends fail to realize that sweet gestures do not have to be purchased. Simple gestures, such as massages or made dinner, can speak volumes to your boyfriend. Take the time to try out these different sweet things to do for your boyfriend. He will be sure to appreciate each and every one of them, helping to strengthen the bonds of your relationship.


Monica WHB (Watts Hopkins-Baldwin), MpsyD-c, FLE, BSHA
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Is There a Secret to Relationships

Is There a Secret to Relationships
if there were a magic secret to relationships, someone would have already bottled it and made millions of dollars. But there are several ways to make your relationship strong and give it the best chance of lasting a lifetime. Most of them are common sense and some are just reminders of when the relationship was new. None of them is really a secret.

• Love. It’s not enough to love your partner, but you have to show them that you love them often. You should never be in a relationship if you don’t feel genuine love for someone, and feel comfortable expressing it.

• Respect. If you don’t respect the person you’re with, there’s little hope for the relationship. If you laugh at your partner, feel he or she is often a joke, dumb or worthy of some kind of scorn, then what’s the point?

• Kindness. Treat your partner with kindness always. A secret to relationships is to be as courteous when you’re alone and not feeling thrilled at that moment as you would with a stranger on the street.

• Thoughtfulness. Put your partner’s needs and desires at the top of your list. Little gestures are often some of the most powerful.

• Honesty. Lies can ruin a relationship quickly, even if they’re lies about nothing important. Don’t do anything deceptive and you’ll never have to lie in the first place.

All of those are important to a relationship and may be called the “secret to relationships.” But you really need all of them for a good relationship, and they’re things everyone already knows. The hard part can be figuring out how to express some of them.

Honest is pretty easy to show. Simply be open and honest during conversations. Don’t be afraid to let your partner see your true self, especially when you feel scared, sad, lonely or vulnerable.

Showing respect and showing kindness can go hand in hand. By treating your partner with respect, you show that you support them. You’ll back them up in their ideas and actions because you respect and believe in them.

Even when you don’t necessarily feel they’re doing the right thing, you can respect their decision and be kind in your words about it. Disagreeing pleasantly is a so-called secret to relationships.

Thoughtfulness and love can be expressed hand in hand, too. Telling your partner that you love him is one way to express love. But maybe he feels more loved when you reach out and rub his shoulders for a minute as you pass. Or you balance the checkbook so he doesn’t have to do it.

People perceive love differently. If you can find what your partner perceives as the most loving thing and do that, you’re expressing your love perfectly for that person. And you’re being thoughtful, too. You’re thinking of that person and trying to make them happy.

If you combine these things and apply them, then you’ve found the secret to relationships that can make your partnership a happy one.
Monica WHB (Watts Hopkins-Baldwin), MpsyD-c, FLE, BSHA
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http://Therapists.PsychologyToday.com/rms/91210
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http://www.premarriage.com
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