Why Making "No Decision" About Your Relationship is wrong

If you're like a lot of people (and couples), you might think that if you put off the decision of whether you want to stay in or leave your relationship, the problems you are having will somehow magically heal themselves or disappear. They won't. If you don't invest some quality time now in taking an honest and truthful look at the state of your relationship, you could stay stuck in this place of indecision for a very long time. It's amazing to us how many people are stuck in "limbo" about this decision and are content to stay stuck in this place of indecision about their relationship. So many people waste so much precious time when they could be experiencing an incredible relationship filled with love, passion and joy, either in their current relationship or one that is more of what they want. But it's not your fault... We do this because very often, as we're growing up, we're taught to hold back, not tell people how we really feel or what's important to us. We're taught to NOT "rock the boat' and to not cause trouble. We're also no usually taught anything about our emotions and how to deal with them that we're aware of. In school, we're taught a lot of things that we may or may not ever use such as math, sciences and of course a foreign language but no class about relationships or communication is offered anywhere that we know of. Not one. Then, later in life, we wonder why our relationships are falling apart when we've done our best and can't seem to find any easy answers. To get started in making this decision, we encourage you to take an honest look at your situation and feel how much pain you've been feeling about this relationship. If having a great relationship is important to you, you need to decide that you're not willing to live without the love, passion, intimacy, tenderness, connection and yes, even sex any longer. You have to take the first step to create the kind of relationship and love you want in your life. We're not suggesting that you should leave your current relationship or marriage and head out looking for the new love of your life. That's your decision and one that should only be made after some careful insight and thinking. What we are telling you is that life is too short to go through it without having the love you want and the love that's possible for all of us. If you are in a relationship that is causing you to wonder whether you can make it work or if it would be better to leave, it's important that you take some time now to gain clarity so that you'll be able to ask yourself openly and honestly whether you'll be able to heal the challenges. The question "Should you stay or should you go?" is certainly a big decision. It could be the biggest decision of your life. It's the one decision you absolutely, positively want to be certain about. This is a decision you don't want to regret later. You also don't want to stay stuck for very long either... xoxo http://about.me/dr.monicawatts